We’ve been conditioned to fear releasing our BIG feelings.
A big part of my journey is learning, or remembering, how to truly FEEL. I am re-learning that feeling the big feels doesn’t have to be a negative thing. After all, emotions are energy-in-motion! We must cultivate the space, skill and opportunity to move energy.
We need to shake. We need to scream. We need to cry. We need to move.
This has been my practice… learning to allow myself to deeply FEEL, and not just emote, but truly feel from deep in my core… completely unfiltered.
We are taught that feeling your feelings is inappropriate, messy and un-important. So, when we have a big emotion, we tend to make ourselves wrong for it. The feminine is designed to be a deep FEELER (we all have both masculine and feminine energy within us).
Huge emotions are fantastic… just like huge rainstorms are. Intense feelings cause us to grow… just like rain causes the Earth to bloom.
Not allowing myself to fully feel is creating a dam to my Joy, my pleasure, my clarity, my flexibility, my voice, my inspiration, my freedom and my WILDNESS.
As one of my dear teachers said:
“Feelings reveal your Truth, so, avoiding your feelings is avoiding your Truth.”
There is a responsible way to feel your feelings and it’s not blaming others or using those feelings to guilt anyone else. Truly feeling is a sacred practice, so, creating a sacred place to do so is very important.
What has helped me in truly FEELING is cultivating a safe space with enough ‘time’ to allow my body to fully express. The safe space may mean ensuring I’m in an environment where no one will challenge me, shut me down or judge my expression.
If there are others around, tell them what you are going to do and either ask for them to witness you (so no one will be saying “don’t cry), or give you space for your expression.
One of my favourite techniques for releasing intense emotions such as anger or frustration is getting into my car, closing the windows and screaming as deeply and as loudly as I can… wow so incredible! Sometimes that’s followed by a good cry or even a good laugh. After all, laughter is MEDICINE.
Are you allowing yourself to feel your feelings? Are you spending a lot of time in your mind? How can you make it a practice to remind yourself to drop down from mind to heart? Can you hear what your heart is saying? What are ways in which you responsibly release your emotions?
These are some questions to ponder or even better, journal about!
You are not alone on this life journey. We are all learning, evolving… taking two steps forward, then one step back, then maybe a couple steps sideways!
May we keep coming back to our hearts, feeling our feels so that we can tap into the deeper truths of who we are.
We must never doubt the whispers in our hearts, no matter what challenges come our way. Our heart knows the way through. We simply need to carve out space to LISTEN and have faith that we are guided.
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